…so many questions…so many concerns.  Should I?  Should I not?  What is best for the kids?  How does one know whether to pursue a divorce or not?

If these are the kinds of questions going through your mind please CLICK HERE and take time to read this online booklet published by Focus on the Family.  It contains valuable information to consider.  And if still in doubt, give me a call – even if its for a one time consultation.  I will pray and seek God’s direction with you as we talk!

“One of the best wedding gifts God gave you was a full-length mirror called your spouse.  Had there been a card attached, it would have said, “Here’s to helping you discover what you’re really like!”    — Gary and Betsy Ricucci


What a gift, huh?  We have all been on the receiving end of our spouse pointing something out to us that we weren’t really excited about hearing.  No doubt… we have all been on the giving side of such “wonderful news” as well.   And if I were to guess, rarely have those occasions been award winning experiences for either party!   Funny thing — hardly a one of us would say “we are totally put together” and yet equally as true, we don’t like it when someone makes us aware of what’s still undone.

The reality is we all have blind spots.  Jeremiah 17: 9 NLT says:   “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked.  Who really knows how bad it is?”   And in most cases, it is these blind spots – things we don’t see about ourselves – that cause problems in our marriages.   What is God’s remedy for blindness? Continue Reading →

Years ago I had a profound experience – a touch of Grace. It left me doubled over and weeping as I marveled at Christ’s love for me. It was a moment so personal and sacred that I am hesitant whenever prompted to share it. I had been listening to one more story of childhood abuse. It was horrific. How can people do such things I thought? And then I thought, how can God allow such evil on earth resulting in unbearable suffering? I felt anger… and the more I thought about it, the angrier I became. It wasn’t long before I found myself enraged at sin and the world around us, but even far more so at God! How could He permit such things to take place? Why would He?

Then it happened… Continue Reading →

I Peter 3: 7 “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”


It has often been said that prayer is essential to experiencing a great marriage. Whereas no doubt this is true, Gary Thomas suggests another perspective that is very worth noting in the chapter: “Good Marriage Fosters Good Prayer.”In referencing the scripture above he notes the following connection… Continue Reading →

I have a friend who has gone through severe hardships in life, far greater than I ever have. Yet every time he calls – he speaks blessings into my life; he quotes scriptures that uplift me. I can think of several others whom I deeply love and appreciate in similar ways – they too have gone through very difficult times. Whereas many who go through the fire become bitter, others become better… better people, better friends, better lovers of those around them. It convicts me, challenges me, and gives me hope all at the same time.

Marriage can be one of the most challenging arenas from which bitterness or “betterness” comes forth.

Gary Thomas in Sacred Marriage says it this way:  Continue Reading →